This morning I danced naked in front of my bathroom mirror. I’m not sharing this to give anyone the willies or to put images you’d rather not have in your head, but I’m sharing this because, at some level, I finally reached a moment of self acceptance. You should know, I don’t just normally stand naked in front of a mirror. Quite the contrary. For 43 years, I’ve done everything in my power not to look at myself, feeling totally disgusted at what I see.
This morning, I was getting in the shower and a great song came on and my feet just started moving. I glanced over at the mirror and for the first time in 43 YEARS...I was not completely nauseated by what I saw. In fact…I smiled. I smiled at the gentle curves. I smiled at the c-section scars from 3 beautiful kids. This might be TMI here, but I even smiled at the now not-so-perky boobs. For one brief second, I just accepted myself–as I was– as God and The Universe intended me to be. And it felt great. Wow….the power in that. And then…I danced a little harder.
I wish this occurred for me more often and I certainly hope that I will feel this way as the days turn. I do know, though, that I am a work in progress, like a sculpture that is never complete and always changing. I am trying hard to live what I preach to my kids–accept yourself as you are and don’t place value in your physical being. Easier said than done.
I look at my children every day and I am not only in awe of who they are and who they are becoming in personality, emotional well being, and the like, but I look at them and find such beauty in their physical being. To me, they are the picture of perfection. I want JT, Maddie, and Maeve to feel the peace of accepting who they are physcially, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. But first, to truly encourage that in them, I have to live those words myself. And today, I finally had on brief moment of full acceptance of who I am, where I’ve been, how I’ve grown, and where I am going.
To all of you who talk to yourself as if you are your own biggest enemy, start small. Look in the mirror and find ONE SMALL thing you like. Maybe it is your eye color or the way the shirt fits you. Maybe even smaller. But start–start finding things about yourself to celebrate no matter how small. One day, you will look in the mirror and just smile. And why not? Why shouldn’t you?
I truly believe if we as a human race were a little more accepting of ourselves, faults and all, we’d live in a much more harmonious world. We’d stop judging others because of the insecurities we feel. So love yourself a little, if not today, tomorrow. But do it…just love YOU!
xoxo